USING EMOTION CONSTRUCTIVELY

DEALING WITH ANGER:

Strong emotions, especially negotive ones, must be dealt with constructively or they will have distructive effects.When inner tension builds up from anger, this tension needs release. if your co worker makes you angry, you cannot throw anything to him or attact him phisically. It is not desirable to "blow off" at your sopervisor; not is it fair for you to battle up your anger until you get home, and then let it loose on your family, perhaps the tension built up from your anger can help you mow the grass,repair that broken gate, or whip up a cake. in other words, use energy generated by anger in constructive physical activity. Do not "blow off" in a way that may harm your relations with other people. Do not hold it in and try to deny its existence.


DEALING WITH FEAR:

Fear must be dealt with, by admitting the fear. In extremely threatening
situations ,action may needed immidiately. Such dengerous situation are not common,
however,We all encounter situations which arouse mild fear: a test, that oral report,returning job that you encounter and finish yesterday, facing your supervisor after you have destroy expensive spareparts,In some situations the fear is justified, and the only recourse is to deal with the situation as effectively as we can. Perhaps thingking it through carefully ahead of time will prepare you for more effective handling of the dreaded situation. As you thinking about the situation, you may fine that fear is not really justified. may be magnified the problem in you own mind; may be you made faulty assumption; may be you allowed emotion to replace realistic thinking about the problem.


DEALING WITH GRIEF:

Grief is an emotion which requires time. if it is due to severe loss, it may take weeks or a month to work through this griefand readjust one's life pattern. most people can begin this process with in reasonable period of time;others appear unable to handle theire grief,in which case profesional help is needed.whenever feeling of guilt are associated with grief, it is probably better to have professional counsel;
such a combinition is very difficult to handle alone.